October 18, 2009
The first time I was a bridesmaid, I had to make a speech at the wedding. I did the wrong thing; waited until last second with writing my speech. This was absolutely a mess, and made me panic the day before the wedding – and I still had to have time for the bride, who needed me in the last time up to the wedding.
The best advice you get – and you really need to follow it: prepare in good time.
Why? Well, standing up in front of a lot of people can be pretty nerve-wracking, and if you donâ€™t have a toast you really feel confident with, no one will enjoy your toast. And of course we all want to look our best, at a best friendâ€™s wedding. Being the “Matron” in the wedding is always challenging, and you need to remember that this has to be the best day ever, for the bride.
But the first thing I did, that really worked for me, was to sit down and brainstorm about ideas. I just wrote down small words and sentences about everything I could think of: funny times with my best friend, facts about the groom, the other bridesmaids, the best man, father and mother of the bride and so on. Luckily most of us at the wedding new each other pretty well, so this was not that big of a problem.
Note that there are much faster methods of writing bridesmaid wedding speeches, but this is what really worked for me the first time.
This is pretty much the first stage of the speech or the toast. At this point you should not think about the order of what your writing, but just focus on what you want in your toast. The biggest block is actually to start writing before you have decided exactly on the content. By just putting down my thoughts on paper, was my way of getting over the first hurdle of my bridesmaid wedding speech.